Please Ask

Please Ask

Several years ago, I went on a large group excursion. I knew it was in the sun and might not be near drinking water, so I brought a huge bottle of water. I knew the water bottle would likely be a burden to carry, but I thought the alternative—not having water—was worse.

I’m thankful that I brought the water. The closest water was at least a fifteen minute hike from our starting location, and our instructor didn’t show any inclination of heading that way.  If we wanted to go get water, we were on our own. 

As we were packing up our gear at the end of the trip, I took a couple swigs from my water bottle. As I was doing so I overheard another young lady on the excursion loudly whisper to her partner, “How rude! If you have water you should share it!” 

It was startling. She was obviously upset. Why did this young women, who was practically a stranger, feel like I should have (A) Known that she hadn’t brought any water (B) Known she was thirsty (C) Known that she felt comfortable drinking out of the same water bottle as me & (D) Known that she wanted some of my water. Upon hearing her “request,” I offered her some of my water. I would have happily shared some earlier had she simply asked. (While I am a germaphobe, I’m very good at carefully pouring water into open mouths. Outdoor educators have mad skillz!)

As far as I know, no one is capable of reading minds. I’m certainly not. You may think it’s obvious that you need help, but it may not be obvious to others. On your health and wellness journey, you will likely need some support along the way. Even I do. Maybe it is just a kind word of encouragement from a front desk attendant. Maybe it’s someone to spot you while you lift weights. Maybe you need help from a personal trainer or health coach to guide you toward the path you would like to be on. 

Help is available, but you do need to ask.

Thanks for reading. I hope you have a safe and healthy week.

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